Life at 40: Zebras, Jigsaws, and Big Reflections

So it’s happened. I’ve hit the big 4-0.

Somewhere in my head I’m still that teenager blasting around in a 29er, but apparently the calendar says otherwise.

And you know what? I’m okay with that.

To mark the occasion, I escaped to the Cotswolds on Tuesday and Wednesday with family, Hannah2, and Rebecca for a couple of days that were equal parts chaos and joy.

We spent a day at the wildlife park where Budster (bless him) decided he had a personal calling to bond with zebras.

Ruby, meanwhile, managed to get through the whole outing without biting anyone — a win worth celebrating in itself. There was plenty of laughter, a fiercely contested jigsaw competition (which Hannah2 won with ruthless efficiency), and, to top it all off, we treated ourselves to an incredible dinner cooked by a private chef. Sitting down to that meal felt like more than just a luxury – it was a reminder that sometimes you have to stop, celebrate how far you’ve come, and mark the milestones properly.

On the surface, it was just a birthday trip.

But really, it was something more. It was a chance to pause, reflect, and recognise how lucky I am to have such brilliant people in my corner – people who make the effort, who show up, and who remind me why I keep pushing forward even when the fight feels hard.

Turning 40 does that to you: it nudges you into reflection. My journey has been anything but straightforward. From a childhood shaped by sailing and the freedom it gave me, to the heights of Paralympic competition, to leadership and development work with Fieri, and now into my role at World Sailing — it’s been a ride full of challenges, reinventions, and lessons.

I’ve gone from chasing medals to chasing impact. These days, my work isn’t just about me on the water, but about opening doors for others — building pathways, creating opportunities, and pushing for a sport (and a world) where inclusion isn’t an exception but the standard. That shift feels like the real legacy: taking the independence and resilience sailing gave me and using it to make sure others get the same shot.

But at the heart of it all, those two days reminded me what truly matters. The support of family and friends, the small moments of joy, the grounding laughter that keeps life from being too heavy. Because as much as I thrive on big goals – the Paralympic reinstatement, the Inclusive Development Programme, the World Sailing Inclusion Championships, even the Vendée Globe dream that still burns – I know none of it means anything without the people who stand beside me.

So, what does 40 feel like? It feels like standing at the crossroads of gratitude and determination. Grateful for the people, the opportunities, and the resilience that’s carried me this far. Determined to make the next decade about legacy — not just my own, but the change I can help shape for others.

Here’s to more laughter, more fight, more community, and maybe fewer close encounters with zebras. Though let’s be honest, those stories make the best memories. 🦓💙